Saturday, August 29, 2009

Sparks, either you have them or you don’t



I was having a conversation with a friend last night, about friendship, and the dynamics of different kinds of relationships, and we touched on a subject I wanted to go into more detail about.

I am not a shy person, but I am a somewhat reserved person. I tend to scope people out for a while before I try to get close to certain ones. My friend said last night that he was glad I stuck by him as he goes through a personal growth period, and has made some mistakes. I told him I did not abandon my friends, and that he stood out to me, which is very rare. He asked me what I meant, and I explained that I have a different way of looking at people than most others do.

He asked me again what I meant, and this is the explanation I gave him, and I am going to add on to that as I have been thinking about it since last night.

Black and White VS Color:

I told him that I “see” people when I meet them or look at them. I do not mean what they are wearing, or how their hair looks today. I “see” part of their inner essence. I do not intrude on them, or anything, it is just how I see them..I tend to look with my mind, and not my eyes. As I told him, 90% of the population I see in black and white. It is a bunch of different people doing the same thing day in and day out. They have no spark, no anima, they are ( forgive me ) cattle. Just a mass of people that slide through grid every day.

But every now and then, someone stands out from the herd…in a sea of grey there comes a spark, a burst of color, and I see something unique and special in this person..and usually they are a kindred spirit. I compared it to thermal imaging…you know where a dead body appears dark blue and green, lifeless, and cold; whereas a live person appears in vibrant hues of red and yellow and orange and lighter shades of blue and green?

alone in the crowd

That is how my minds eye looks at people. It is not seeing their aura, everyone has an aura, but I have only seen one three times in my life, and only from one person.

blue flame and sparks


I do not have a ton of friends, but the ones I do have are very special to me. I believe in quality, not quantity. They are all people I have seen these colors in, and when I met them, sparks were exchanged, for lack of a better phrase. Our souls sized each other up, found out there was a special link between us, and created sparks when the souls embraced. Crazy sounding I know, but again, that is how my mind perceives it *winks*

It does not always have to be in person however. I have met people online who look like they are surrounded by sparklers, and my best friend Maia is one of them. It is like when you throw a log onto a fire, sparks fly up right? Well she is a bonfire, with dozens of people throwing logs on the fire continuously, lighting the night sky with a million tiny sparks.

fire sparks

I have even met a couple of people here in the world of blogging that sent sparks up to me, and I am looking forward to hopefully building relationships with these people, and finding more as I discover new sites and people!

In the end…

Some will probably thing I am strange now, but that is ok. As one of the Aunts in Practical Magic states: “ My Darling girl, when are you going to realize that being ‘normal’ is not necessarily a virtue? It rather denotes a lack of courage!”

That is probably the best quote I have ever heard that applies to my life lol.

So that concludes my musings on that subject. Do any of you ever feel that certain people stand out from the crowds in your life? Do you have a story about when you met someone, and you knew right away they were unique and special?

I would love to hear about them!


*Music of the Moment: Mea Culpa by Enigma*

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Anonymous said...

I feel like I could have written this post. Except for I would have added that I don't see through rose colored glasses. I see people for who they are not what I want them to be.

Like you I believe in quality not quantity in friends.

Great Post

Magaly Guerrero said...

Oh darling I certainly have met someone, seen them once and know that they are magnificent people. I remember meeting a girl in high school. I saw her sitting on a corner acting all shy--total opposite of me--I sat next to her without saying a word. We have been friends for almost 16 years. She is my best friend in the entire world and I knew this was going to be the way it is, ever since I took her out of the shy corner.

Coach Z said...

What a great post. It is well spoken and thought provoking. Do I have sparks? I want sparks!! LOL SMILES

Rue said...

Like Magaly, I met my best friend this way. She was just some girl behind a counter in a store - and I walked by her all the time - but there was something about her, and once we started talking - that was it! She was like my long lost sister!

I don't "see" as you do - but I definitely get a 'feel' for people right away. Too bad I don't pay more attention to it, when it comes to crappy boyfriends! LOL!